I was seven.
I was a typical little boy. Seven is not that old, and is a time in life where a care in the world should be banished from anyone’s mind.
But it was not far from my mind. I was scared; I was nervous.
Because I had a speech impediment.
This brought about its share of challenges, but the one that bothered me most, might seem like a given in a situation like mine. It was the fact that the symptoms – the stuttering and inability to speak at times – never left. They were both constant and inconsistent, in that they were ever-present but could pop up randomly at any given moment and within any conversation.
It was frustrating. I wanted improvement; I wanted healing! I wanted it to be gone.
What I didn’t realize in that time, back when I was seven, was that true healing does not come from removal. Instead, it comes from perseverance.
I was to find relief from the worry and pain of my speech impediment through practice and speech therapy, through a maturing and growing mindset, and through the heart of a lion. God had a plan for me and He still does. Present Day, I perform public speaking frequently, and although sometimes there is a stutter and a slip-up, the difference remains in my mindset and motivation. Through perseverance, the healing came. And it is still here.
Seven is part of my story; one of healing, perseverance and faith. What is Your story of healing?
Why do you do what you do? What makes you move? What makes your engine run?
What drives you and gives you motivation? What is it that lights your fire?
What makes you not just survive, but thrive?
Everyone has something. That motivating factor, the tipping physical point where they can become a different person altogether and for the better. They become more motivated, more driven, more successful and most importantly, maturing in their own healing along life’s journey.
This motivator is not found apart from understanding more and more about yourself every single day. In this growth you will discover new attributes about yourself, both good and bad, and use them to find the essential parts of yourself that further healing and more growth and improvement.
See, it is a continual train of self-improvement going on; a growth train, as it pertains to mindset.
God has placed you on this planet to make a difference and an impact for many. But this will not happen robotically. The saying is true – “Life is 10% what happens to you and 90% how you react to it.”
Why are you here? Why do you want to make a difference? Why do you think that YOU can be that difference and impact?
Why? Maybe you need to ask yourself – why not?
The following are 12 Steps to Addiction Recovery, followed by 12 positive follow up thoughts (leaps, as we put them).
We admitted we were powerless over addiction—that our lives had become unmanageable. Although the temptation to addiction was, in essence, the thought of our own power and control, the promise proved to be futile. Nevertheless, we are on the road to recovery! This will be but a distant memory in our success story.
Came to believe that a Power greater than ourselves could restore us to sanity. The futility of addiction’s promise is that WE are the solution. But we have taken that next step when we realize that in truth, it is a Power greater than ourselves that carries us through.
Made a decision to turn our will and our lives over to the care of God as we understood Him. This is a decision that cannot be understated. In God’s hands, our recovery and healing is assured.
Made a searching and fearless moral inventory of ourselves. I say it to myself all the time – WRITE WRITE WRITE IT DOWN. Be organized, if even for the sake of future celebration and nothing more. You will NOT regret the time you spent creating a moral inventory – whether written down, in memory, or in best case, both.
Admitted to God, to ourselves, and to another human being the exact nature of our wrongs. This brings another massive step to the recovery process. When we intentionally bring our exact wrongs and lay them out, we are setting the stage for intentionality to be at the forefront of our lives. This makes healing and recovery more likely to occur.
We are entirely ready to have God remove all these defects of character. Our mindset has changed. Far from being in the throes of addiction, we are READY to move on into deeper recovery and healing.
Humbly asked Him to remove our shortcomings. With humility comes great progress. We cannot misss this important step in healing.
Made a list of all persons we had harmed and became willing to make amends to them all. We are ready more than ever to become not only fully on the right recovery pathway, but also to become conduits towards others for their own healing and recovery journeys.
Made direct amends to such people wherever possible, except when to do so would injure them or others. This is such a critical point. Understanding context is critical. Understanding people is essential. Understanding both is when the recovery man/woman becomes an active instrument towards others.
Continued to take personal inventory and when we were wrong promptly admitted it. Never ever give up! The process does not stop as long as you are alive; you will not achieve perfection this side of heaven. This is not a fairy tale; this is reality, which is far better.
Sought through prayer and meditation to improve our conscious contact with God as we understood Him, praying only for knowledge of His Will for us and the power to carry that out. We do’t settle for the bare minimum with healing and recovery very; why would we settle for the bare minimum with God?
Having had a spiritual awakening as the results of these Steps, we tried to carry this message to addicts, and to practice these principles in all our affairs. This is where our healing and recovery, turned into a conduit as well, fully develops into a life-style and is one we embrace as our own story; one of conquering, growth, and love.
“We bring ourselves into the light, and we see the truth; we hide from the light, because we do not want to see the truth. We cannot find the light when we do not know the truth; but we stay in the dark because we would rather not know the truth” – Anonymous
Each of us, when reviewing our life and the journey we are on, understands that the greatest challenge comes from within. The biggest difficulty, the most devastating enemy, is ourselves!
Have you ever struggled making progress in life? You have the tools, but you have no motivation in the least? Or maybe you do have the motivation, but you lack direction? Maybe, just maybe, you are at the lowest valley of life where you seem to lack both motivational fuel and a road map.
In all these circumstances and more, the mental outcome seems bleak. But that is not the truth being spoken.
What is the truth? That recovery, and the power within, are greater than the difficulty.
The root of the problem is you. But in like manner, you can understand the solution – because when it is found, look out world! Healing has begun.