Have you ever done a spring cleaning?
It’s amazing right? No, I’m not talking about the the unused items we have to sift through, the trash that is long overdue to be put in the trash can, or the effort that it takes to actually finish the project.
None of this is what I am referring to.
What I am referring to is the end result.
The fully clean, spotless, downsized and finished product. It is amazing! It makes me feel good, accomplished, and if I’m honest, proud of myself. This is what a task well-done ensures us. None of this is because of the difficult measures that must be taken. It is simply because of the result; a well-cleaned room.
Now imagine your life; the lifestyle you lead, your hopes and dreams, and the choices before you.
Is it a well-cleaned room? Or is it in need of some spring cleaning?
Remember, the difficulties of your life do not define you. Instead, view them as part of the cleaning process. Push through them and gain progress slowly but surely. Life is not easy, but progress can be made, areas cleaned up, and forgiveness given. Have faith, take heart, and fully look to the finished product of your life: the clean room.
For the last couple years, there has been so much that has come in the form of adversity towards Lanie’s Hope.
Frustration, stress, tragedy and loss – all of these things have come into play, and the temptation has been to despair.
Have we been doing the right thing? Is this all truly worth the effort and sacrifice, in the face of everything that has occurred? It is true life brings such difficulty at times that it can all feel as if it is too much, too weighty a sacrifice, and too high a climb.
But we do remember something – actually, two things.
The cause itself that we fight for is difficult; and we do not fight in our own strength.
Recently, our founder Bea Aikens was interviewed by the LA Times regarding the mission of Lanie’s Hope, and this in part centered on this topic. In the passing of the height of the COVID-19 pandemic, the addiction in the form of compulsive gambling rose to new heights. The difficulty of this addiction in its very nature, practically ensures a difficulty of a different manner in recovery and stamina of those in such recovery and therapy. This addiction is not a visible one to the naked eye. To the public, the solution is an easy action, a red stop sign, a gathering of strength for the common good and betterment of the individual. But it is, after all, an addiction. There is great difficulty, sweat and tears in recovery. Real people come with real problems that are solved by real solutions. Yes, the cause we fight for is difficult.
However, we never are to fight in our own strength. This is a universal fact, albeit with differing sources of that strength. One way that we can avoid fighting in our own strength is in the company of others. In this same LA Times article, all of the individuals whose stories were explored were impacted for the better by others around them, whether family, friends, or others who impacted them in a positive manner.
For those who, like our own Bea Aikens, hold to the faith in Jesus Christ and the Christian teaching, the source of strength is seen to come from God, who gives His followers the strength to carry on through difficult and trying times, including that of addiction. This is strength that humanity cannot explain, and that surpasses difficulty. Although this does not guarantee a problem-free or easy life, it promises a beautiful word and concept to those who are struggling with gambling addiction; that word is Hope.
It is with this strength, and in this hope, that we seek to move forward, grow and thrive at Lanie’s Hope. We are fully invested and excited to see where this journey takes us, and we look forward to being used to impact others reach them with the message of hope.
Walk in Memory/Walk for Hope- Sept 11, 2021 7:30AM, Bob Miller Middle School, 2400 Cozy Circle, Henderson, Nevada
Lanie’s Hope’s proudly supports the Walk in Memory/Walk for Hope. We walk to remember those who have been lost to suicide, to honor the family members and survivors, and to shine a light of hope for those who may be considering suicide. Compulsive Gamblers have the HIGHEST suicide rate of any group, with 1 in 5 compulsive gamblers considering or attempting suicide.
Let’s face it friends – the past year has been challenging on all fronts! Mental health issues have come front and center with the added stress of “social distancing”, loss of personal connection, for some loss of jobs or housing and, sadly for some loss of loved ones.
Our community will be walking together to honor those we have lost and celebrate those attempt survivors who are such a vital part of the suicide prevention community!
The Walk in Memory/Walk for Hope is near and dear to my heart and I have been intimately involved in the Walk as well as sponsoring organization, the Nevada Coalition for Suicide Prevention since my first walk experience in 2009 after we lost Lanie. This year, I will not be able to personally attend the walk as the pandemic impacted my living situation and we are currently “nomads”, traveling the country for a year by RV. (That story is for another time…but trust me…God has turned a “challenge” into a BLESSING! Still I know that Lanie’s Hope supporters and the Recovery Community are STRONG SUPPORTERS of the mission to reduce suicide. If you have a Lanie’s Hope T-shirt, please where it:) If not, you can get a Prevent Suicide T-shirt at the walk. What you wear is not important – showing your support matters!
God Bless you all and welcome back to the Walk in Memory/Walk for HOPE!
Aprile 21, 2021
I invite each of you to walk with us on Saturday, September 11, 2021 as we take suicide and gambling addiction out of the darkness and into the light.
Nevada Conference on Problem Gambling – June 11, 2021
Las Vegas, Nevada
SAVE THE DATE and plan to attend the Nevada Council on Problem Gambling’s annual conference! After a year of “shelter in place” and a very unusual “new normal”, it is with great joy that we look forward to participating in the 2021 Nevada State Conference on Problem Gambling!
The Council has asked us to moderate a “Recovery and Resilience” panel, in which people in recovery from Gambling Disorder will share their unique experiences in maintaining abstinence during the Pandemic. Details of this and other programs will be forthcoming. For now, “Save the Date” and plan to join us at the SunCoast Resort in Las Vegas. for this one day LIVE event!
Details and registration will be available soon at Nevada Council on Problem Gambling
January 6, 2021
“Today So Far” …. I hear this every time I participate in a 12-step meeting. And…I SAY IT at every meeting when asked what recovery milestone has been met. “Today So Far” is the greatest gift I’ve ever been given! It means I’ve learned a better way of life. And I haven’t had to place a bet or have a drink to live “life on life’s terms.” It keeps me in touch with the fact that recovery is attained one day at a time. It is not an “event” it is a process. Each day in recovery is a gift.
Today (So Far) is a milestone of sorts. It is my 25th “Birthday” in Gamblers Anonymous. It feels right to share this morning’s Journal Entry with you…it’s the best way I can express what I’m feeling today. Journaling is one of the best tools I’ve found in recovery. My feelings and thoughts are expressed unfiltered and unedited…they just flow and I can release them, honor them, and let them go. So excuse any typos, incomplete sentences or grammatical errors. This is how I journal. So..here’s my #TodaySoFar entry.
25th GA Birthday
Curious. Today is a day to give thanks for the endless gifts and blessings of recovery. Yet my thoughts are of Tommy W., Anton’y, and Lanie…those who didn’t survive this insidious, patient, destructive disease. All three of these beautiful souls, along with countless others we lost, experienced glimpses of the gifts…they held the delicate petals of early recovery in their hands and asked in wonder “Can this be REAL? Can my life REALLY be better…can it be THIS good?”
The internal battle of early recovery is palpable..”Am I really worthy? I’ll probably screw it up again, so why bother?”
“No! I want this. I AM worthy. Im going to fight for a better life – free from the bet and free to love and be loved.” Read more →